On Love: Do you really sleep with white women? do you feel bad about it?

So my mom dated Ving Rhames. Legend has it, he cooked her dinner in his home-but she didn't like him...But she never likes anyone cool.

She messed it up for my brother and I;  our dad could've been a movie star, an underrated movie star who once dressed as a woman, but a movie star none the less...Anyhow: My first experience with Ving was a little less personal:

 I saw him in the film Holiday Heart; (the snippet is one of my favorite scene) It made me think, about love and the Holidays: What does it mean to love? Granted when you are into someone, you recognize the flaws in their humanity, but you can look past it, generally , everything becomes negligible.  However, we cant always count on the people in our family, friend circle and other "informed outsiders"to be so diplomatic. This can often add all sorts of:

to your recipe for "grand love, especially now  that we are in the throes of the holiday season.

On Miss America

Little known facet: I was a  runner up in an Beautiful Baby, New York contest. I should have won first place. When I didn't I am sure I looked like this



At two. 

Now, as a sophisticated intellectual, I take pride in not watching pageants anymore.The black girl never wins anyway; no matter how gorgeous, wonderful, poised, or educated. However, something of historical interest happened this past weekend.

Nina Davuluri became the first Indian American to win Miss America ever, in 2014.

I think that is dope, however many people across the country don't.  One man actually said, on twitter, "Miss America, you mean Miss 7-11"